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Q: Hi. I'm "Pam" and I just got back to my country from an exchange program in Boston.
I have been dating a guy for 6 years. He is a sweetheart and I know he loves me very much. Before I left for my exchange program, we had a long conversation about how things would work while I was living far away from him. Everything was just fine. After a year living in Boston, I met a guy (he is 27 and I'm 22) and I fell in love with him. We had so much fun together. He is a wonderful man and I can't stop thinking about the moments we spent together.
In the beginning I really tried to stay far from him because of my boyfriend, but what I was feeling for him was too strong. We kept it slow but saw each other about once a week. Now I'm back to my real life (school, work, etc.). And I'm also back to my boyfriend, but it seems that I just think about the guy I met in Boston. He calls me almost every day and we have Skype dates very often, like once or twice a week.
I'm so confused about my feelings because when I see/talk to this guy, I feel like there are butterflies in my stomach, but when I'm with my boyfriend, I feel in love with him again too. I really don't know what's wrong with me. Is it possible to be in love with both guys? Should I forget about this guy I met in Boston? Should I let my boyfriend move on?
– Pam, Brazil
A: Break up with your boyfriend, Pam.
I believe that you love him, but you don't want to be committed to him anymore. You're pursuing a relationship with someone else.
You didn't tell us whether your boyfriend knows about the American guy, but I assume that he doesn't. That makes this a cheat.