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Q: What happens when you can't get over a former significant other from almost 7 years ago? I've dated many others since then but none compare. I've given those others a chance but can't help comparing them to her and thinking about her when I'm with them. I've had no contact with this significant other -- until a random correspondence through a good old social media site. We found each other on there and exchanged messages. She claimed that she was "so happy" I found her.

Just as fast as she appeared, she was unresponsive and then gone. After not answering a couple more of my messages she deleted her account. My messages were not psycho at all; I didn't mention anything about us or our past or ask about her current love life. I was just asking general questions about how she's been and what she's been up to. It almost makes me feel that she knew what she was doing and had spiteful intentions.

I know people will tell me she doesn't even deserve any bit of my attention and how I have to move on -- but it hasn't happened yet after 7 years. I want somebody else to come along who I'm crazy about, but it just hasn't happened yet, and at 33 I feel that it should have by now.

– Nice Guy Who's Sad, Cambridge

A: She just wanted to say a quick hello on that social media site, NGWS. She didn't want questions. She just wanted a shallow, virtual "friend" with no expectations. She probably hid her account because she could tell that you wanted more. Or maybe she has a boyfriend who wondered why she was getting questions from an ex. I doubt she was being spiteful. She was just sending an honest message. She didn't want to get your hopes up.